My Mum Guilt Over Spending Time With Our Second Child

 

For a long time, it was just me and Kye-two little besties-a Mother and her Son-the two of us spending every day together while Daddy worked.
We attended playgroups, met up with other Mummy’s and their little ones, and most importantly-we made incredible memories that will stay with me forever.

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Personally, I look back on time with Kye and also remember how he got me through my darkest days-at 18 months old, unbeknown to him, his Mummy was going through the first of three miscarriages, and I can honestly say, I know I’d have fallen apart without him. Continue reading “My Mum Guilt Over Spending Time With Our Second Child”

Minnis Bay Brasserie & Gravity Review ~ Olivia-May’s Birthday Week

 

A couple of weeks ago, we celebrated Olivia’s 4th Birthday-and boy, does that girl know how to drag out Birthday celebrations (goodness knows where she gets it from…..)

I’ll attach a vlog I put together over the week, at the end of this blog, but first I wanted to review a couple of places we visited during the celebrations. Continue reading “Minnis Bay Brasserie & Gravity Review ~ Olivia-May’s Birthday Week”

#Blogtober17 ~ Day 3 ~ Car

Today is Day 3 of Blogtober 2017-and the theme is….CAR!

 

This one could’ve been a tricky one to write about-I don’t drive, and to be honest, I don’t particularly like cars!

Let me explain more….. Continue reading “#Blogtober17 ~ Day 3 ~ Car”

All About You – #Blogtober17 – Day 1

Hello-and welcome to the first day of #Blogtober17!  If you didn’t catch my Facebook post yesterday, then you may not have the first idea about what’s happening right now.

Blogtober is basically a-blog-a-day!  I’ll be blogging about a variety of random subjects, every day throughout this month-but don’t worry-there will still be the usual reviews and ramblings of my mind!

Today’s theme, as the title suggests, is, All About You. (Which is All About ME!)

Continue reading “All About You – #Blogtober17 – Day 1”

Why my Son is scared of the world, but I’m not completely sad about it….

 

Over the last 6 months, my son (7), has begun having nightmares, and sometimes anxiety before he’s even gone to sleep, about being scared of the world and situations around him.

My Dad and Step-Mum, both work closely with children of all ages, and have assured me this is normal-something I confirmed with our old friend Google.  Apparently at this age, children become more aware of mortality-their own and other peoples.  They overthink situations that usually wouldn’t get a second thought. Continue reading “Why my Son is scared of the world, but I’m not completely sad about it….”

Helicopter Parenting-Do You Really Have All The Facts?

Helicopter Parenting
Some have heard of this term, others may be  wondering what it is.
To clarify, “helicopter parenting” relates to a parent that hovers around their child, being overprotective, shadowing them, keeping a short distance between them, in case of accidents and other life issues.

 

This is me. I’m a helicopter parent. The thing is, I don’t want to be one.  I certainly never chose to be one.  It kind of just happened. Continue reading “Helicopter Parenting-Do You Really Have All The Facts?”

Vodafone Smart Tab N8-Tech Review (from a non-tech blogger)

Vodafone sent me their new Smart Tab N8 to review!

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If you read my last tech review, of the Samsung mobile, you’ll know two things.
1. I am not a tech reviewer.  I review as a Mum, woman (and as someone who has zero idea of tech related information.
2. I am a fierce Apple addict.  I have an iPad, and an iPhone, and don’t often find Android very easy to go back to. Continue reading “Vodafone Smart Tab N8-Tech Review (from a non-tech blogger)”

Momma Makes-Mother And Daughter Tee Review

we were sent some awesome clothing from Momma Makes!

who are momma makes?

A Mum and Dad team of two-Aimee and Scott, who, after seeing all the beautiful products available on social media, decided they wanted to see even more!
After searching the internet for specific items they required for their own little girl, and having no luck, they decided to make her the things they had hoped to find online! Continue reading “Momma Makes-Mother And Daughter Tee Review”

10 Things Girls Need Most-Book Review

As I’m writing this, the Department for Education is reporting that a third of all teenage girls in the UK suffer from depression or anxiety.

 

Starting out as a mental health blogger, means I’m privy to a large amount of statistics.  How many men suffer from one type of mental illness, how many women suffer with another.

What I’ve rarely seen are statistics for children, until I received best selling author, Steve Biddulph’s book.

10 Things Girls Need Most, to grow up strong and free, doesn’t just focus on younger girls mental health-but an entire range of methods, and interactive tips, to enable you to bring up your daughter to the best of your ability.

 

The NHS say that 20 percent of girls are self harming-three times as many as ten years ago.

As previously mentioned, I am a mental health blogger, who suffers from mental health issues.  To read in this book that not only are a large and increasing number of young girls are suffering from mental health issues, but that there are also a worrying amount self harming and suffering from PTSD, is enough to make me want to work hard on making sure my daughter is safe and secure.

During the content of the book, there are a large amount of interactive activities for the reader to take part in.  Enabling you to think about your own background and past experiences, it becomes clear how those influence our daughter’s present and future.

 

A father who is able to show his caring makes a huge difference to a girl.  It’s a learning curve, since her world is very different to yours.  there are some secrets to make it a lot easier.

 

There are sections for both parents to write in, which personally made me realise how much of a massive part Dad’s play in their daughters lives.  I’ve heard about underestimating the relationship between a father and daughter before, but the importance of their relationship is made evident throughout this book.

Regardless of the age of your daughter or your home situation, the entire book is helpful.  You learn not only what you may have missed previously in their lives, but also what you can currently do to help them, and what you can aim for in the future.

 

Taking one chapter at a time, you can create your own ongoing support group to help you care for all your daughters together.  That’s how girls were meant to be raised-by a tribe.

During my journey through the book, the interactive activities felt like a therapy to me.  The information I was given, didn’t come as a surprise, but knowing my daughter may suffer in some way because of my past, was especially hard hitting.

If anything, during the sections of this book, and once I’d finished working my way through, any concerns I do/did have about my daughter and her future, felt manageable.
Knowing I could refer back to the book whenever I needed to, knowing that these pages held more than just information-that they held help, nourishment and education for us as parents, alleviated those fears I have for my little girl.

This book can be read again and again.  It’s not a book about how to parent, it’s not a book about do’s and don’t’s.  It’s a guide-an aid if you will, to bringing up your daughter in the best way-enabling her to tackle the world and its stresses, with strength and freedom, whilst knowing they’re guided safely by you.

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This really is an incredible book-especially for those with daughter.  To buy your own copy, head over to Amazon here.

Golden Parenting Advice-UK Parent Bloggers

This week I have drafted in my blogger friends to add their opinions and thoughts on subjects I’ve chosen to write about.
Today is day 3, and the subject today (as you can see from the title), is;

Since becoming a parent have you ever been given any ‘golden’ advice that you just can’t live without now?

Personally, mine is to not worry as much.  Something it took me two children, and 5 years to understand-but something I’d definitely share with fellow parents and parents to be!

Beth from Twinderelmo was told “Always trust your gut instinct. It’s too easy to be led by books, health professionals etc but you are with them 24/7 and know them better than anyone.”
How true this is, I spent half my time with my first child going through a library of books and panicking about what Health Visitors would say!

Amy from Amy & Tots was told “Lather your newborns bum in vaseline before putting on their first nappy. It helps to stop the meconium poop sticking to them!”
Where was this information when I had my two!!!  That stuff is like hot tar!!!

Jaymee from The Mum Diaries was told “When it comes to breastfeeding each day is a milestone!  Don’t think too much about the future just concentrate on today!”
This is such good advice-it can take so long to crack breastfeeding, this advice takes so much pressure off!

Emily from EmilyandIndiana was told ” If clothing is stained (especially from those newborn poop explosions!), hang in the sun – it magically lifts the stains!”
I’ve heard about this!  The amount, even now the children are grown up, that gets stained with dinner etc-I could salvage so much with this advice!

Kate from Counting to ten was told “Knowing about developmental leaps (Wonder Weeks) made a huge difference to me. When baby is being particularly challenging you know there is a new exciting behaviour on the way.”
All I’m going to say is, I’d never heard of any of the “wonder weeks” business!  I had basic email alerts each month, but nothing that gave me insight into why they were doing what they were doing!

Louise Bell from Wee Ohana was told “Trust your gut! If you think something isn’t wrong investigate it! When my little boy didn’t smile until late, laugh or give eye contact at 6 months I had concerns, and then he didn’t talk and I had more concerns, every told me he would talk in his own time.. now we are awaiting an official diagnosis of autism. So trust your gut if something doesn’t feel right don’t let people blow it off!”
This is so important.  You know your child!

 

The above advice is so important!  I wish I’d known half of these when my littlies were babies!

Thanking my lovelies over at UK Parent Bloggers for their contribution!

(If you want to see our last two blogs from this weeks crowd sourcing series, here they are! Future Advice For Our Sons-UK Parent Bloggers.
Future Advice For Our Daughters-UK Parent Bloggers)