#Blogtober ~ Day 12 ~ Love

Today is day 12 of Blogtober 2017, and definitely one of the easier themes to write about-Love.

 

I have a lot of loves in my life, not all of them people-some of them things-some of them material, some of them not.
All of them, however, give me the strength and positivity I need to get through even the toughest days. Continue reading “#Blogtober ~ Day 12 ~ Love”

The A-Z of Parenting

These 26 words, are pretty much all you need to grow tiny humans and keep yourself from rocking in a corner sane.  Memorise them, use them as your mantra, and you will be fine!

thFYJHRHSW.jpgAppetite.  Kids have one.  All of the time.  They’ll eat you out of house and home if you let them.  You must keep them entertained and hydrated or they’ll mistake thirst and boredom for hunger!
bBooze.  It’s needed, not all the time, but always in the house “just in case”.  Being everything to everyone can get stressful sometimes!
th8V3Z2NMZ Chocolate.  Also needed, ALL the time, ALWAYS in the house, sometimes if ‘E’ is happening, chocolate can work instead of meals.
thB6SL29OE Dirt.  For some reason, kids are somehow, always dirty!  I don’t know where they get it, or how, but there’s always some somewhere!!!!
thZA3SB8R1 Eating. It’s done fast, or not at all.  You need to make sure you’re available for helping others eat, serving drinks, extra sauces, clearing up mess, and basically not having time to eat your own-and if you do-its cold!
th Fun.  Whether you wake up feeling like crap, absolutely shattered, with tons to do  throughout the day, you MUST still be fun!  Kids seem to get bored around about 10 minutes after waking up, and throughout the day when they’re not eating or tantruming. You must entertain constantly if you’re going to get through a day!
thBD6W568I Growing.  You go out, spend an entire months worth of spare money on the kids clothes and shoes, and within that next month, they grow out of most of it.  The worrying thing is, you don’t notice it day to day, but it just happens!
thIVI5MVTW Housework.  Just don’t even go there with this one.  Its constant, you get little/no help and its just never tidy or clean enough unless you’re home alone for a substantial amount of time.  As you clean up, they go around after you, undoing all your hard work.
thCZ5OUDUL Illness.  There’s tons of it, and it comes in waves, taking down each member of your family one by one, until there’s a big fat red cross on your door and you’ve quarantined everyone to their bedrooms, with a bin each for vomit, and some kind of noise they need to make for when they need refreshments or cuddles.
th2LPAMEBW Judgement.  You’re going to be judged.  No matter what you do, when you do it, how you do it, and why you do it, you’ll always be judged by someone somewhere.  Don’t let this phase you!  You know what is right for your kids.  Go with that instead of listening to others.
thLC2GTCAQ Know-it-all.  You must know everything-every answer to every question asked, whether its absolute nonsense or not.  Most of those answers you give, will end up being responded with “why?” by the child in question, and you’ll need to give an adequate answer to that too!
thK80KI12Z Laughter.  This is a must.  Its pretty basic, but its the best noise, the best entertainment and it keeps you battling through the day!
thKL48NCTZ  Mummy.  This is now your name.  You will hear it from the moment the little ones wake, to the moment they go to bed-and maybe even during the night when they should be sleeping!
th7CN1WOS1  Nights out.  These are a thing of the past.  Its hard enough finding the spare money to get out of the house, let alone to find a sitter that you trust with your precious little ones, or who doesn’t cost the earth.
thO9YCN79J Octopus.  You have to be one.  You need to find a way to grow around 6 more arms, so you can carry out all requests without taking too long and ending up with tantrums!
thXIYKVXDM Pets.  The little darlings decide at some point in their tiny lives, that they’re going to need some kind of pet.  You may be like me, and unable to have cats/dogs etc in your rented home, but that doesn’t stop them.  You could end up with a fish, or a hamster, or a tortoise!  They sound like fun dont they? NO! They are as much mess/effort/money/time as the kids-maybe even more.  For as long as you can, put them off!
th3WPZ9O03 Quickness.  Another must, you must always be quick.  If you don’t get to the kitchen for juice or a snack, within roughly 90 seconds after being asked, all hell is going to break loose!  Be quick.  All the time.
thTQWYS370 Right.  Kids are always right, even when they’re wrong.  If you remember that you’ll have a much easier life!
thAXBALVQP School Runs.  Think back to walking yourself to school, how much effort it was to get there, how reluctant you sometimes were, and the playground issues you’d have.  Now add in, having to take someone else there, who’s sometimes just as reluctant, and this time, you have to deal with playground issues from fellow school mums instead!
thHPLU0ZDVToilet training.  One of the biggest learning curves you’ll go through as a parent.  Patience, patience, patience.  That is my only advice on this one!
thCFTHZS0F Unintelligent.  If you thought you were clever before you had kids, you wont think that anymore.  Well, unless you count your vast knowledge of nursery rhymes, kids tv theme tunes and the names of ALL the characters they watch!  In that case-you’re a genius!
th1CPHOY9J Vegetables.  They are the devils food.  According to the little ones that is!  They wont eat them, and if they do, their faces will contort, they will moan and whine and sometimes even force a gag out for maximum effect!
th14ZK3WER Washing.  It never ends.  Thats about it.  IT just doesn’t end.
thBZXW1EQR X-ray.  This one might seem an odd one, but think of how many times, prior to having children, you spent in the hospital, then double it and double it again!  There will be lots of lovely trips to the paeds a&e department, which can sometimes end up in xray!  Doesn’t that sound fun!
thTQDG2IH4 Yes!  This is what they want to hear, always.  You must never say no, because that word is also known as the “tantrum button”.  That button should be avoided at all times.
thMQCKIMFW Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.  This is how tired you are.  All the time.  Not just physically, but mentally too.  All the time.

Sometimes, we could use alternative words for the “Parenting Alphabet”.

P is for Pride.  How proud they make us day in, day out, for just the smallest things sometimes-but things that seem the biggest, best things to you.
F is for Family.  These little people are your flesh and blood, your little family you grew and nurtured into the tiny humans they are today.  It doesn’t get better than that!
E is for Emotions.  The emotions you feel when with them, or without them, are like nothing you’ve experienced before.  The sheer tug on your heart when you miss them, or the swell of love you get when they kiss and cuddle you, or tell you that they love you is more than you need to get through each day.
U is for Unconditional.  You’ll never feel the sort of unconditional love you feel for your children, for anyone else.  They are your everything and nothing else compares.
For the 26 challenging words above, there’s millions of others that can be used to describe your children, that are full of love, and that are the best to remember when battling the ’26’.
Enjoy all of it-before they grow up and you miss every single bit.
th6GH78QZF

 

Night Owl

  

11:38pm

I’m awake. Still. I come to bed at 7 every night (except Saturday’s and Sunday’s, which are spent with the husband watching the weeks tv). I’ll be honest, I love the quiet. 

So why at this time most nights am I still awake?
Every night, you could ask me that question and I guarantee I’d have an answer. Tonight’s reason is simple. 

Tonight I’m on Mummy duty. 

Today after her nap, little Miss Mayflower woke with the most horrendous rash I’ve ever seen. 

RASH is one of those words you never want to see as a parent when describing one of your offspring. 
It doesn’t matter what kind it is, you’re always second guessing what kind it could be; Is it raised? Is it hot to touch? Is it close together or is it more “spot” like? Where’s that glass-let me press it on this patch. 

It’s just one of those symptoms you can’t and never ignore, you never take lightly and you most definitely ALWAYS Google!

Or is that just me? Trawling through google images of “close together bumpy rash” photos. Then checking the rash name with the symptoms and realising your child has no symptoms that come close to that rash. 

  
So you narrow it down to what you think it could be. That’s the best you can do when you’re at home and NOT a doctor. 

Then comes out the antihistamine. Most rashes described by “Doctor Google” have said give antihistamine. Then you take their temperature. Which today came back fine-leaving me to ponder further what this mysterious rash could be…..
  
Fast forward 5 hours after said child went to bed, and here I am, after checking on her-basically every 30 minutes, (from top to toe) as best I can without waking her (with my phone torch as close to her skin as was possible without waking/blinding her), and there’s no rash. It’s gone. 

All that worry, all that anxiety, (all that googling!) And it’s gone!

What happened during pregnancy that I’m now suddenly programmed with this need to stay awake to check on my children constantly. I wouldn’t have done that with my husband before we had children! I never knew what people meant when they said you love your children unconditionally but I’m pretty certain this is what it means. 
Because personally, I can’t see many other reasons, aside from unconditional love, that would make me do this for anyone!

Best be off-more checking will be happening in a matter of minutes!

Thanks for reading!
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