As some of you may know, I wrote a blog a little while ago, regarding my experiences with Miscarriages and my feelings on the issues I had.
Today I write, about a new campaign run by Tommy’s.
For some reason, the subject of “miscarriages” has always been a very taboo subject. While having my miscarriages, and after having them, I felt very isolated and lonely, because no one I knew had been through the same thing, and to speak out about it to strangers felt unnatural and in some situations, wrong.
Fear of hearing something you don’t want to, something that won’t help, from people that are saying what they hope is right, doesn’t help anybody dealing with the loss of a baby, at any stage.
What women need, is professional care.
What women need, is research done straight away into why the loss happened.
Tommy’s ran a poll, to see what the statistics were on this subject, from women who have been through it, who feel like they were let down by the medical professionals they had hoped would help them.
Their findings massively resonated with me.
- 79% of the 5,561 women asked, said they felt like a failure after losing a pregnancy
- 70% said they felt guilty
- A massive 85% said they didn’t think people understood what they were going through
- 67% felt like they couldn’t even speak to their best friend about what had happened to them
- 35% felt like they couldn’t talk to their father about it
If there was a book entitled “How You Will Feel After A Miscarriage”, the above points would be in it. Right now, I’m in a situation where I’m gradually becoming more confident to discuss what I’ve been through, but during my miscarriages, I felt all of the above, and more.
You do feel like a failure-but you’re not.
You feel guilty-but you shouldn’t.
You feel like you’re completely on your own, but you’re not.
You should be able to speak to anyone about what you’re going through, and not worry that they’re not going to understand or they’re not going to give you the information you so desperately need.
On Monday the 16th of November, Tommy’s launched #misCOURAGE, their nationwide campaign, across Twitter and Facebook, in order to encourage anyone affected by miscarriage, mums, dads, family, friends, people who have had miscarriages, who are having a miscarriage, to speak up, tell their story, share their experience, to try and raise awareness, break the taboo, and show their support to other women in the same situation.
Tommy’s are aiming to halve the number of miscarriages by 2030 by funding medical research. They will be opening the UK’s first national Miscarriage Research Centre in collaboration with Imperial College London and Warwick University in April 2016.
This campaign is incredibly close to my heart. I struggled, alone and unaware of what was happening to me. I wasn’t given any answers as to why my body couldn’t carry those three babies. I needed help, explanation and understanding and that service just isn’t currently available.
From today, I will be doing as much as I can to assist the wonderful people at Tommy’s to fund this vital research.
I urge anyone, ANYONE, who has been affected by miscarriages, no matter how many you’ve had, no matter how long ago, to join me and everyone else supporting this cause. Tell your story, find the courage within you, to help others feel they can tell theirs too, to support the people going through this.
For more information and help from the Tommy’s Website click here
For more information on the new research centre, click here
Tommy’s have teamed up with Seraphine and Sophie Ellis-Bextor to raise money, by selling this “The Love” tshirt. To get yours please click here (and if you share a selfie with you wearing the tshirt, Seraphine will donate an extra £1!)
You can also donate to the research fund here.
And finally, please take part in the Miscarriage is Misunderstood Thunderclap here