Last week, I had an interview with a well known women’s magazine, who want to run a story about my miscarriages, and mental health issues following my losses.
My initial reaction was that I would do it-I didn’t even think of saying no.
I’ve come to realise just how important talking about miscarriages is.
I get that it’s so very personal to people. That moment you not only type those words you’ve been thinking for so long, but know that you’re going to have strangers look at them, is basically terrifying.
I remember the first time I wrote down my feelings regarding my miscarriages-the sheer panic that people were going to judge me. That they were going to comment negatively on me releasing feelings that I should keep to myself. People who didn’t want to hear the intimate details of what my body went through, and subsequently what my mind then went through.
To date, I’ve never had one negative comment, one hateful message, one person telling me they don’t think I should be posting about my experiences.
If anything, I’ve received more than my fair share of positive messages and comments. Women messaging me telling me my posts could be written about their stories, about their personal experiences.
I knew going in to this that nothing would be secret anymore. My deepest darkest secrets would be out there in black and white, for the world to see-and I know now how much of an amazing thing that is to do.
I’ve never felt so alone as I did when I lost my three babies-so abnormal when I realised I had mental health issues.
Talking about these things, sharing my story, has not only made me realise I’m not alone in any of it, but that by talking, just talking, big things will happen.
Right now, researchers are working to find out why these things happen. Their hard work is going to change the amount of women who suffer with complications during pregnancy-meaning further issues will not arise-meaning less women suffering with mental health issues following their trauma.
Just by talking and sharing, we can raise awareness, for those who have already suffered, and for those who may suffer in the future.
Just by talking and sharing, we can help those researching baby loss issues.
Just by talking and sharing, you can help one woman feel less alone than she did yesterday.
Keep talking, keep sharing, and together we can change these things.
Change will not come if we wait for some other person, or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for, we are the change that we seek.
As I mentioned above, change is coming-and it’s thanks to people like the researchers working alongside Tommy’s that are making this happen. Find out more about the research HERE, and how you can help HERE.