Don’t Mistake My “Confidence” for Confidence


noun: confidence
definition: a feeling of self-assurance arising from an appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.
self-assuranceself-confidenceself-reliance, belief in oneself, faith in oneself, positiveness, assertivenessself-possessionnervepoiseaplomb, presence of mind, level-headedness, cool-headednessfirmnesscourageboldnessmettlefortitude

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#HelloYellow ~ Young Minds ~ Supporting Our Children’s Mental Health

Being a Mental Health Blogger myself, it goes without saying how important my children’s mental health is too.


So when I saw my Son’s school were supporting Young Minds-the UK’s leading charity championing the well-being and mental health of young people-on World Mental Health Day 2017, there wasn’t any doubt in my mind that I would support them too. Continue reading

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Mental Health & Medication-Anxiety & Depression

As a lot of you will know, I suffer with various mental health issues.  Recently, for the first time in a very long time-I’ve felt a little out of control with coping with the issues I have.

After a conversation with my cousin discussing whether it was a good idea to go and see my GP to speak about the possibility of taking medication to help me cope, I decided to see if any of my fellow bloggers had an opinion on whether or not to go down that route.
Additionally, I wondered if there were any alternative ways of coping with my depression or anxiety attacks.


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Helicopter Parenting-Do You Really Have All The Facts?

Helicopter Parenting
Some have heard of this term, others may be  wondering what it is.
To clarify, “helicopter parenting” relates to a parent that hovers around their child, being overprotective, shadowing them, keeping a short distance between them, in case of accidents and other life issues.


This is me. I’m a helicopter parent. The thing is, I don’t want to be one.  I certainly never chose to be one.  It kind of just happened. Continue reading

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Kalms Lavender One-A-Day Capsules-A Natural Remedy For Anxiety


As those who follow my blog posts will know, I suffer with Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD).  To date, I haven’t received any prescribed medication from  my GP, choosing instead to find alternative ways to deal with my symptoms, and, sometimes, choosing to medicate only with natural remedies.

Because of this, I am always on the lookout for new and improved natural remedies.


Kalms Lavender one-a-day capsules


Kalms have brought out just that.  For the first time in the UK, the anxiety-relieving effects of uniquely prepared, pharmaceutical quality lavender oil are now available, only in Kalms Lavender One-A-Day Capsules.


More than 15 clinical trials studied, showed that a daily capsule of uniquely prepared, pharmaceutical quality lavender oil, can relieve the symptoms of anxiety.  The trials also showed that an beneficial effect was evident in only two weeks, and that the capsules were found to be as effective as commonly used anti-anxiety medication.

Anxiety is one of my biggest issues in life-because it is SO hard to overcome when it takes you down.
I sometimes wonder if the things I take are only helping on a psychological level-in the sense that I feel better just because I’m taking something-not because I’m taking something that works.

With lavender oil, we all know that it’s a calming ingredient-it’s something that works to relieve symptoms of stress and anxiety.  Now however, we also know thanks to the studies done by Kalms, that the natural ingredient of lavender oil, has a much more beneficial effect when it’s uniquely prepared, and of pharmaceutical quality.

So, what are the signs of anxiety?

You could be reading this blog, wondering what the signs of anxiety are.  Maybe you think you’ve got some signs of it, but would like some clarification.

Some anxiety symptoms aren’t shown by all people, some will suffer with more than one thing, or maybe suffer with one symptom more than others.

Personally, my symptoms appear to have evolved since my diagnosis.  I now suffer with palpitations, an upset stomach, nausea, hot flushes, dizziness and anxious thoughts lead me to lose sleep.
My palpitations and upset stomach are the more serious for me, I suffer with these more than the others-but all of my symptoms depend on the severity of the anxious situation I’m in at the time.

If you’re unsure what you’re looking for, take a look at this short video, brought to you by Kalms.

Unfortunately, anxiety is one of the most prevalent mental health conditions in the UK – one in five people report feeling anxious a lot or all of the time; and more than 45 million working days have been lost due to anxiety (combined with depression and stress) in the past three years.

For those of us that have children, there is a worry that our issues are affecting them, that we may pass on those issues to them as they grow.
Personally, I try very hard to keep my issues at bay until the children are not around.  But I’m well aware that the severity of some people’s anxiety disorder can prevent them from being able to hide it from anyone.

What causes anxiety?

If like me, you’re a bit of a ‘Googler’, you’ll be wanting to know just what causes anxiety.

Anxiety UK CEO Nicky Lidbetter said; These feelings occur due to an ‘imbalance’ in the way the body processes environmental and sensory stimuli. A disproportionate ‘excitatory’ response, and excessive release of neurotransmitters between nerve cells in the brain, leads to overstimulation of the nervous system and feelings of anxiety.


So why should we use kalms lavender capsules? 

Professor of Psychiatry Dr Siegfried Kasper, who was involved in a number of the clinical trials commented; “This is a very exciting development for anxiety as the research demonstrates the lavender oil capsules not only reduce both physical and psychological symptoms of anxiety but also have a beneficial effect on health-related quality of life, without problems such as sedation, addiction or interaction with other medications. Benefits are also evident after just two weeks”.

Personally, my issues with medical intervention are that I don’t want to feel sleepy or addicted-so these lavender capsules really are beneficial for me.

Another plus for me is the price-I do find the more expensive types of natural remedies tend to not work any better than the cheaper ones-I often get sucked in to believing the large price tag is testament to the quality of the product, which is more than often not the case.

Kalms Lavender One-A-Day Capsules, are priced at a really reasonable £6.49, and are available from Boots, Asda, and at the Kalms website-HERE.


If you’re struggling to control and cope with feelings and symptoms of anxiety, Anxiety UK provides support & information on anxiety, stress and anxiety based depression.
The charity is user-led, supported by a clinical advisory panel.
Visit their website at, or call their national infoline on; 08444 775 774.


 Take a look at my other mental health blogs HERE, and my other product reviews HERE.

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An Open Letter To 23 Years Of Bullies

**Disclaimer before I begin-I haven’t been bullied everyday for 23 years-the title of this blog refers to not only the regular bullying, but to the damage bullies leave behind-every day of my life.**


To the school kids at my first school-who started bullying me when I was only 7;
Did you even understand what you were doing at that age?  Did you even comprehend the damage you could do to a fellow classmate? Continue reading

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Loving The Life Less Lived-Book Review

I was sent ‘Loving The Life Less Lived‘ by Gail Marie Mitchell to review to coincide with Mental Health Awareness Week.


lovingGail suffers from anxiety and depression-and has done for many years.  After struggling to try and beat her mental illnesses, she finally decided to accept them instead, using her own tips and tools, culminating in her decision to write this book. Continue reading

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13 Reasons Why-The Importance Of Awareness 

I’ve spent the last week watching the much talked about Netflix programme, 13 Reasons Why. 
I’ve also seen so many mixed reviews-so many opinions on the subject of suicide and mental health issues being made so accessible to young viewers throughout this programme.

As much as I can understand people’s concerns, I can only write my opinion from my own experiences-which is actually harder than you would think. Continue reading

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Where Have All The Therapists Gone?

Last night I received a voicemail from a new NHS team, providing mental healthcare in my area.

I’ve been on their waiting list for the best part of two months, and to get that voicemail saying there was an appointment ready, was a massive boost for me.

I called them back today and was told the appointment is for tomorrow.  Now, I know I should be grateful to have been taken off of the waiting list to get an appointment, but I can’t do anything with such short notice-as I’m a Mum of two and my husband works full time. Continue reading

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Anxiety-Acceptance Over A Cure

Over the last few months, slowly my Mental Health issues have improved.
Let’s not get confused-I’m not cured-far from it!  What I have done, is gradually accept the person I now am.

For so long, I fought so hard-against what my brain was telling me, against how I felt.  I hated the person I was, I hated who the Anxiety had made me.

I blamed myself, and my issues, for everything.  The reason the housework wasn’t done.  The reason I hadn’t seen anyone outside of my house for weeks.  The reason people weren’t wanting to be around me anymore.  I was having “down days“, “dark days“, “bad Anxiety days“.  Everything I did, every thing I had become, was blamed on Anxiety.

Anxiety was to blame.  And PTSD was to blame for that.  Losing three babies and having no Mental Health aftercare was to blame for that.  The list of things to blame for this one Mental Health issue, goes on and on-I’m a psychiatrists field day!

I can’t explain what changed, or when it changed.  I can only tell you what I have come to realise now.

As a blogger, the realisation that I’m actually good at something-something I truly love doing, and get complimented on often, has helped massively.  I know I can write-and as an outlet for everything going through my silly old brain, regardless of whether it makes it to the website or not, really aids my recovery from those “dark days“.

6 months ago, I wouldn’t have left the house without having some form of Anxiety attack.  Now I’m attending press nights in a busy theatre, filled with people.  I talk to strangers, and I write my reviews, knowing others will read them.
Yes I’m still anxious about any negativity that may come from my writing, or worried a stranger that I speak to may not like me-but it doesn’t stop me anymore.

6 months ago, I couldn’t have imagined travelling to London alone, or anywhere really.  Yet, I’ve now lost count of the amount of times I’ve made it to the big city, remarking on how stupid I felt about the Anxiety attack I’d had earlier in the day.  It’s not stupid-it’s normal for me.  But actually, every time that has happened, a little bit of strength has found its way back to me-giving anxiety a tiny kick and saying “we did it, we beat you”.

6 months ago, I wouldn’t dare send an email pitching my blog to companies, to ask them to work with me, for fear of a nasty reply, (or no reply), and that horrible feeling of rejection I was always so worried of getting.
Now, I pitch most days, and yes, people are rude, and yes, people are ignorant, but surrounding those who are ignorant and rude, there are a handful of people, complimenting my work, saying yes straight away, based on my website and blogs, and giving me opportunities I wouldn’t have got without pitching.

2 months ago, I wouldn’t have dared to do anything in my local area that would shine a light on me.  Knowing people are so close, and may judge me to my face, would’ve prevented me even writing about my local area anonymously.  Yet here I am, writing for my local news website, thankful for another opportunity someone gave me that enables me to do even more of what I love.

There was a time, when I didn’t recognise who I was.  When people seemed to be friends with me to make their lives look better.  When misery loved company-and I was that company.

There were times, when I’d spend days crying, wishing I was someone else.  Wondering where everything had gone so wrong.

Now, there are times, when I’m thankful for those who left when they did-to those who showed me, being around them was hindering my growth as a person.

Now there are times, when I don’t cry for weeks, and actually, I wonder why I ever let Anxiety take over my life so much.

As I said previously-I’m in no way cured.  I’m just learning to accept what has happened to me-to accept who I now am, and roll with it, rather than fight it.  Those “dark days” will still come.  Those “down days” will still take over.  Just not as often, and not as brutally as they first did.

I know it’s not easy, but if you’re feeling the way I did, the way I still do sometimes, accept it, grow from it.

Write that pitch, send that letter, make that phone call, dump those that don’t accept you-that can’t be there for you, find your happy and roll with it……


Me in London on my own, after an anxiety attack on the train, giving Anxiety a kick, and treating myself to a walk up Primrose Hill.


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